Old Bailey: Picture by Ben Sutherland
A Norwich man urges the family court to actually publish the transcripts of his 10-year odyssey in trying to see (more) of his child.
How on earth can justice be ‘served’ in this case? There is a huge need for transparency in the family courts to stop situations like this.
Another insightful post from Karen.
via The Unbearable Experience of The Alienated Child: Lessons From The Recovery Journey | Karen Woodall
Report on a local self-help group in Ravensburg (near Lake Constance) in Germany.
Kreisgruppe des Vereins „Väteraufbruch für Kinder“ in Ravensburg gegründet
„Allen Kindern beide Eltern, das ist unser oberstes Ziel“, sagt demnach der Ravensburger Vereinssprecher Stefen Schrapp (41), systemischer Berater, der selbst betroffen ist und sich seit Jahren um mehr Kontakt zu seiner Tochter bemüht. „Eine Trennung der Eltern bedeutet für jedes Kind den Zerfall von Sicherheit“, weiß er aus Erfahrung.
Eltern müssten auch nach der Trennung ihrer Verantwortung nachkommen und sich um ihre Kinder kümmern. Manchmal sei das aber nicht so einfach, da ein Elternteil dem…
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We recently learned that actress Kelly Rutherford (Gossip Girl) and her well-know celebrity attorney Wendy Murphy are once again on the media circuit telling the story that Kelly Rutherford was victimized by the U.S. Courts. Could Kelly Rutherford that has to fly to France for custody time with her children be the new celebrity activists for the anti-family court groups?
What is not being reported or acknowledged by Kelly Rutherford or her attorney, even in her Dr. Phil interview below is that she engaged in parental alienation during the custody dispute. We noticed that even when she appeared on the Nancy Grace Show with Nancy’s pal Wendy Murphy, the discussion of “parental alienation” was not a topic that was discussed (when would any topic be off the table with Nancy Grace?)
Here are some reports on her case:
“During their divorce and custody case, Rutherford…
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I have just finished watching one of my favourite films. “The Day the Earth Caught Fire” about when the effects of two nuclear weapons tests result in the Earth being pushed slowly towards the sun.
In the film there is a not insignificant scene where one of the reporters of the Daily Express meets up with his ex-wife and his child. The impression given is that the mother, in this case, is ‘allowing’ him to see his child. A similar situation to some custody situations now.
A lie told often enough becomes the truth
Lenin, Marxist revolutionary (1870-1924)
A very interesting quote is it not? And what has it got to do with parental alienation?
Well – everything really.
Parental alienation works by giving the children the impression that the absent parent is ‘bad’, and to that end any tricks and/or lies are acceptable.
Words for the abused parents – Basically look after yourself.
Be present. Make love. Make tea. Avoid small talk. Embrace conversation. Buy a plant, water it. Make your bed. Make someone else’s bed. Have a smart mouth, and quick wit. Run. Make art. Create. Swim in the ocean. Swim in the rain. Take chances. Ask questions. Make mistakes. Learn. Know your worth. Love fiercely. Forgive quickly. Let go of what doesn’t make you happy. Grow.
– Paolo Coelho
I wanted to share this blog because it is written by someone who clearly knows how alienation and cults are interwoven. When I first began work as a psychotherapist one of my first clients was escaping a cult. I was interested in how EST, the cult which became The Forum worked and how Scientology managed to influence so many when it demanded such bizarre and dramatic behaviours from people. My interest in cults lead me eventually to working with parental alienation, itself a cult of the family mindset. I like this blog and think anyone who is interested in the psychology of alienation will too.
Source: A Trapped Mind
I read this week that a transfer of residence is the ‘nuclear option’ for treatment of parental alienation in the UK . The discussion arises from a public judgement in which the child concerned was sent to live with her father. Whilst there is a significant wrangling about the decision, based on the argument that the child had been too damaged already to be helped by a change of residence, (the judge finding that a particularly unattractive argument put forward by the mother), the words at the end of the Judgement are clear, the child will go to live with her father today.
That reality, which could just as easily read, the child will go to live with her mother today, given that fathers alienate mothers too, is one which causes too many people to become uneasy when they contemplate it. Which is why I guess, it is called by…
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I have just got the school report card from my youngest (13). German law requires that I get this along with a report on how the children are doing. My ex-wife has managed to distill this down to a few legally acceptable lines, as I have reported before!
What is interesting are the marks for English and French. Just a quick reminder: I live in Germany, my Ex-wife is German, and never had any interest in speaking English, only French. Until the final break with the children, I always spoke English to them.
LOST DAD 