Karen Woodhall: Through the Gendered Lens Darkly

Another report on the recent report published detailing research undertaken by CAFCASS and Woman’s Aid.

Please note when reading that Ms Woodhall, is as a rule gender neutral in her blog posts.

After having read this and the other reactions I have posted I may feel obliged to post something myself!



via Through the Gendered Lens Darkly | Karen Woodall

Shared parenting in Kentucky

Well if you have managed to open the article after the incredibly bored headline …

Coming hot on the heels of the report about the German Liberal Party supporting shared parenting, the US state of Kentucky has passed a resolution to:

What House Bill 492 does is it basically states that walking into the courtroom each parent has the presumption of 50/50 shared custody to start with.

So until permanent custody is settled,  shared parenting is (apart from cases where the child is endangered) mandatory.

Though what is really interesting are the voting figures: The bill passed 97-0 in the house and 38-0 in the senate.

Why is this taking so long to be accepted and acted upon in most parts of Europe?

via Rep. Mills: Child custody change helps level playing field

Mutter und Vater sind gleichwertig / Mother and Father are equal

An interview with the deputy leader of the Freie Demokraten (UK: Lib Dems) where for the first time that I have heard here in Germany a major political figure is supporting the concept of shared-parenting (Doppelresidenz).

She even goes on to say that when the parents cannot agree to the future residence of the children the courts should be allowed to order shared-parenting. Shame that the party will only reach 5-6% of the votes in the upcoming general election in Germany.

via „Mutter und Vater sind gleichwertig“ – WELT

Swiss men are worried …

A poll was taken recently in the German-speaking area of Switzerland. 4121 men and 2768 women were polled regarding Feminismus und Gleichberechtigung (Feminism and Equality). This is a large sample for a poll apparently.

There were some interesting results, as can be taken from the report here (Google can do the heavy lifting for the translation!).

The really interesting result with respect to the subject matter of this blog is this:

German-speaking Swiss males feel that they are discriminated on the most in the area of “Bei meinen Rechten als Vater” (My rights as a father) with 38%. The topics all had to do with equality so the next point 12% behind (24%) was with conscription (mandatory only for swiss males).

swiss opinion poll

German-Speaking Swiss males also had problems with the social acceptance of the classical father role (11%).

Fathers are unsure of their rights, and are starting to see that problems that occur after a separation/divorce regarding custody or access to the children are not being resolved and that there appears to be no real desire to change this situation, regardless of the gender of the abused parent.

It’s time to change – all across Europe. Perhaps finally adopting the shared parenting recommendation of the Council of Europe (here) throughout all European (and still European!) countries would be a good start?

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Tory MP calls for strict enforcement of child arrangement orders

Excellent news here in the UK parliament. A couple of weeks ago PA was debated, now we have a private member’s bill being put forward by an engaged tory MP  (and supported by several of her party) to change the law regarding enforcement of child arrangement orders.

Hopefully, it will get to the next stage. If not it is still raising awareness of the issue of PA and parents blocking access of the non-resident parent to the children.

via Tory MP calls for strict enforcement of child arrangement orders – We Are Fathers4Justice – The Official Campaign Organisation

Hoffnungen der Väter sind berechtigt

Positive signs are coming all of a sudden from Austria. This article forwarded from Famile & Familienrecht reports on an interview with a state judge (Bundesrichter) in Austria that is for shared-parenting. He even goes on to say that it should work, and should be supported even in cases where the parents (or one as we well know!) are in a conflict situation.



Wütende Väter schöpfen neue Hoffnung

Another article on the German Supreme Courts ruling that shared-parenting can be applied in Germany,  if 1) it is in the childs interests and 2) the parents are not already battling it out in court. Then it can be ‘forcefully’ applied.

A couple of interesting things come out of this article:

  • The Germany Family Minister from the Social Democrat Party is VERY pro-mother.
  • Even though the cause of this ruling from the Supreme Court is based in part on the recommendation from the Council of Europe to incorporate shared parenting into national law this minister has ignored it, and has commissioned her own study into the benefits. This study is effectively forbidden from taking evidence from those children that are mostly affected by PAS. Because BOTH parents have to give written permission!

Finally an open letter from “mutterlobby.de” addressed to the family minister is referenced. This letter talks about fathers that simply want to see their children in the most negative way.  Isn’t is time to stop the gender war and find a common workable way for both sexes to contribute to the development of their own children?

via Streit um Scheidungskinder: Wütende Väter schöpfen neue Hoffnung – WELT