Parental Alienation; is change on the horizon?

An interesting round up of the recent activities in the media regarding parental alienation

Lee Serpa Azevado

Regarding the raising of awareness of parental alienation I believe change is on the horizon. I am not naive enough to believe it will happen overnight. However, very much like the general public’s past lack of understanding of mental health, parental alienation is now starting on that same journey.

Last week parental alienation was reported on the BBC national news here in the UK.

Understandably this was shared across social media by the thousands upon thousands of alienated parents out there. It felt to me that the online anti-parental alienation community shared it with a somewhat cautionary sense of relief; that as much as we are sill denied reform, finally something so unjust as parental alienation is now being discussed on prime time national news here in the UK.

On the same day as the above reporting, the BBC also published the following related article on their BBC News website…

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Must Watch Video

 

I came across this video a couple of weeks ago. It tells the story of what has happened to a lot of us. It certainly touched a nerve for me when watching several scenes.

This video tells in a short space of time the story of parental alienation – how it starts, what the effects are, and how it can come to a situation where your own children no longer want to see you.

I recommend watching this video, bookmarking it and showing it to anybody who cannot believe parental alienation exists.

And of course, just share it where you can.

The Denial of Depression

A thoughtful article on how the loss of our children can affect us.

Lee Serpa Azevado

Anyone that has ever experienced depression may well be guilty of it. Family and friends may have witnessed their loved ones guilty of it. As the title suggests I am exploring the denial of depression.

I recently experienced a severe period of depression, lasting approximately three months. My marriage broke down last year. And since then I have been denied any contact with my three young children by their mother. This form of contact denial is known as parental alienation. The discussion and definition of this form of abuse is beyond the scope of this article. See blog page entitled What is PAS? for more details.

“I myself succumbed to the denial of depression.”

My depression was triggered by the contact denial regarding my children. I had never experienced any form of depression before. I am still battling the contact denial while at the same time managing my depression, but…

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Have you heard the joke about the parent who complained to Cafcass!

Another good post from btg-dad demonstrating that CAFCASS is not fit for purpose.

Lee Serpa Azevado

For those readers not familiar with my blog I have now not seen my three beautiful children for over 13 months. This is due to my ex-partner and mother of my children breaching numerous Court Orders and ‘successfully’ denying me contact with my children. Like so many other alienated parents out there, my case is one of severe parental alienation. For those unfamiliar with this form of abuse see here for a more detailed definition.

So in returning to the subject of this particular post I recently put in a complaint to Cafcass (The Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service). Cafcass is a government run body that claims to look after the interests of children involved in family proceedings.

First I would like to present the reader with some context. As stated above I have not seen my children for 13 months. Cafcass have evidence that my ex-partner…

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Does Thinking About Your Children Less, Mean You Love Them Less?

A thoughtful post from btg-dad on coming to terms with not seeing the children and the effects on mental health.

Lee Serpa Azevado

Before discussing this question, please allow me to put this into context for those readers that may not be familiar with this blog.

I am what is known as an alienated parent. Following the breakdown of my marriage my ex has ‘successfully’ prevented me from having any contact with my three beautiful young children for what is now a year. She has ‘brainwashed‘ them against me, and openly defies numerous Court Orders advocating direct contact me, with no legal consequence for her actions. She is in fact, as confirmed by the authorities involved, inflicting emotional abuse on my children on a daily basis.

This is the sad and tragic nature of parental alienation, for a more in-depth definition see here. I am one of an incalculable number of alienated parents out there. We all have our own story, but ultimately we are all fighting the same…

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Karen Woodhall: Through the Gendered Lens Darkly

Another report on the recent report published detailing research undertaken by CAFCASS and Woman’s Aid.

Please note when reading that Ms Woodhall, is as a rule gender neutral in her blog posts.

After having read this and the other reactions I have posted I may feel obliged to post something myself!

 

 

via Through the Gendered Lens Darkly | Karen Woodall

Parental alienation, one year on. What have I learnt? 

A thoughtful post from Peace not PAS. I subscribe to each and every one of your points.

Lee Serpa Azevado

It is now a year since I have had any contact with my three beautiful young children.

My ex continues to deny me any contact with them.  My ex continues to take advantage of a flawed system. A system that enables her to ignore and breach court orders for contact and engagement in interventions, with no legal consequence.

I do not claim to be an expert in parental alienation. My story is no worse than any other of the incalculable number of alienated out there.

The following is certainly not intended to be viewed as some kind of checklist to battle parental alienation.

I have simply reflected on the last year and compiled a list of what I have learnt during the last twelve months.

  • Normalising the sense of sadness and low mood one will invariably experience as an alienated parent is okay to do.
  • Allowing this sadness and low…

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