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“To enable, or not to enable, that is the question…”

Another thoughtful article which could have been entitled “enablers by default”. People are so willing to help, but when it actually comes to action, unfortunately, their hands are tied!

Peace Not Pas

The above play on words got me pondering on both the natureand choice of behaviours of those thatintentionally or unintentionally become enablers of parental alienation.

“To be, or not to be, that is the question,” from Shakespeare’s Hamlet is arguably the best known line from literature and theatre. In its entirety the speech shows Hamlet’sprofound dissatisfaction with life andits many struggles. He is uncertain what death by suicide may bring.This is subtly underpinnedwith the Christiandenunciation of suicide, the Tudor belief that suicideleads to the fires of hell.Hamlet is highlighting the dread and uncertainty of suicide. He believes the wrongjudgment call leads to the fiery gates of hell with no way back.

In life there are many decisions and actionsthat are pivotal. Enablers of parental alienationultimately make the wrong judgement call, when they intentionally or unintentionally engage in certain behaviours. Some choose to ‘turn a blind eye’ while others are prevented…

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Richterin Claudia Bandion-Ortner -> Kinder im Gerichtssaal? Auch hilfreich bei Urteil

Richterin Claudia Bandion-Ortner -> Kinder im Gerichtssaal? Auch hilfreich bei Urteil

Nice story about a daughter being allowed in the courtroom. When she ran over to her father and hugged him.

Familie & Familienrecht


Kinder lieben Mama UND Papa auch nach der Trennung,

ist Richterin C. BandionOrtner überzeugt.

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Kinder im Gerichtssaal? Auch hilfreich bei Urteil

Es war eine ausgesprochen gute Idee, dass Klein Laura ihre Mama in Wien zum Gericht begleitet hat – obwohl Kinder im Gerichtssaal ja unerwünscht sind und dort auch nichts verloren haben. Es war, wie gesagt, eine gute Idee – wenn auch für den angeklagten Papa. Dem die Mama „ Kindesentziehung“vorgeworfen hatte . . .

Im Sommer soll es, so die Anklage, „ den Versuch gegeben zu haben, das Kind der Mutter im Park zu entreißen und wegzulaufen“.

„ Geeeehhhhhh bitte“, ist die fast entnervte Reaktion von Papa Sascha. „ Ich bin mit einem Freund wirklich zufällig an dem Park vorbeigefah- ren, bin ausgestiegen und hab erst dann gesehen, dass ihr Neuer dabei war. Ich hab meine Tochter auf den Arm genommen und wollt nur zwei Schritte weg…

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Hurting the Heart of a Child: Parental Alienation is Child Abuse

Karen Woodall

I continue to work with children in recovery from parental alienation, this is the bulk of my current work and as such it puts me in prime position to understand at the most fundamental levels, the harm that parental alienation does.  Close examination of how children recover from alienation is the subject of my doctoral research which, now that our book is being readied for publication (looks like end July folks), I can now spend more time on.

This week I heard the hurt of a child who has been harmed by the psychological splitting that comes with parental alienation. It was a visceral experience which took me straight to the core of the problem caused for children by parents and other adults who cause a child to reject a loved parent.  Overwhelming guilt and shame and the utter bewilderment that comes when a child blames themselves first.  Because being…

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Self-Reflection

Meditation - Attribution: https://www.flickr.com/photos/wiertz/
Meditation – Attribution: https://www.flickr.com/photos/wiertz/

I was reading this report today on transparency about a father that brought a  case of Parental Alienation against his wife with respect to his two boys. The analysis of the case by the superbly independent Transparency Group showed that he was probably to blame for his actions, and ultimately the fact that he did not allow himself to reconsider the ramifications of his actions, or show any empathy for the circumstances which effectively caused the situation that now existed.

I read this report three times, and as always I drifted off in contemplation. All sorts of questions came to mind: Did I cause my own situation?  I am to blame? Am I possessed with blaming my ex-wife and her new husband for something that is ultimately down to me?

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Ireland: ‘Dads aren’t recognised in our Constitution and the Citizen’s Assembly denied them a voice’

Article in todays Journal (Ireland) from Matt O’connor (father 4 Justice).

Insightful article from Matt, with details on why this fathers day is not a fathers day for quite a few fathers in Ireland.

Also interesting is the position of the catholic church.

The Church has consistently refused to support the rights of separated fathers to see their children and while Pope Francis has eulogised about the role of mothers, he has repeatedly made discriminatory comments about dads.

In his 2016 papal pronouncement Amoris Laetitia (The Joy of Love), Pope Francis went as far to describe fathers as “absent, missing…too controlling…they neglect families…fail to offer sure and solid guidance to their children.”

In fact, not a single priest has raised his voice to express concern for the plight of fatherless children and their dads.

via ‘Dads aren’t recognised in our Constitution and the Citizen’s Assembly denied them a voice’

Scotland’s Shame

A powerful post illustrating the shameful and backwards viewpoint of the Scottish courts.

Karen Woodall

Today is Father’s Day, a day to celebrate love for your dad and show him how much you care.  Today, in Scotland, the border of which, by my reckoning, is a mere 382 miles from where I write this blog this morning, one father wakes up without the relationship he had painstakingly rebuilt with his child. A relationship which, after being  rebuilt over many years in the face of a tsunami of resistance, was ended last week by Scotland’s outdated family courts.

Today, this blog is for this father and his child and it comes with a promise.  Your pain and the causing of deliberate harm through ignorance, arrogance and the utter incompetence of the system which governs Scotland, will NOT be in vain.  This moment has been marked and we who understand and know the truth about parental alienation in your case and so many others, WILL BE BACK.

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Three vignettes in the successful treatment of parental alienation

Karen Woodall

This week I am presenting at the Missing Children Europe Conference In Brussells on the loss of children through alienation and the impact of this upon their wellbeing ten years on.  This led me to thinking about the ways in which the impact on children of alienation are largely unrecognised and how little there is in the UK in the way of services to support children in these circumstances.  Of course, without structural and legislative change, we will continue to see the problem of alienation rise and rise and there will be many more children in the next generations who will sever their entire relationship with one side of their self as a defensive response to the separation of their family.  This causes me to think about the core specifications for any services that purport to support the needs of alienated children. Because with the rise of such children in…

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