An excellent article with background on PAS and the eventual consequences via The Zero Sum Game Of Parental Alienation | The Huffington Post
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The dark side of Christmas – and why so many dads are at risk over the festive period
A story about lost dads at Christmas, and hidden risk involved.
via The dark side of Christmas – and why so many dads are at risk over the festive period
Parental Alienation – My take
This will be the start of a regular blog series aimed at absent parents – either at the start of a break-up, or at the end of parental alienation, where they are suffering the full weight of their own children not only disowning them, but also despising them.
The series will try to cover most aspects of ongoing or completed parental alienation from a survivors point of view. Planned themes are:
- What exactly is Parental Alienation?
- Found your own support group
- Coping with the “other father”
- Coming to terms with the environment you are in (Social services, legal etc.)
- What to tell the children
- Coming to terms with reality (you are rarely in charge of the situation)
- Keeping the relationship with your children
- Do the children return as adults?
- Your wellbeing, it doesn’t help anyone to give up on yourself
- When to “give up”, and how it means “never give up”
- and many more …. I have been through a lot, and read even more on the subject.
I am now in the situation where my children do not want anything of me … “We have a better father than you”. I believe that through these articles I may be able to help those in the same situation. Because the one thing that got me through the actions of my abusive ex-wife are the help and advice of friends and counsellors – and to be frank, anyone that listened, as well as any relevant articles on the internet. So it is time to give something back.
© lost dad 2017
Keep Loving the Lost Ones-Karen Woodall
From Karen Woodall:
It is coming close to Christmas, a time so many of you dread, in these days, keep heart, keep faith and keep on believing in yourself as the healthy parent to your children, because you are. After another year of working with alienated children, in which I have seen again in their faces, the truth of what alienation does to them and what it causes in them, believe me that they need you because they do. As each drawn and worried face has been transformed into happy, confident smiles, I have renewed again my faith and belief in the work that I do, why I do it and what it achieves for children. I have also renewed my knowledge that you, the lost parent, are the best hope for your child’s healthier and happier future. I don’t have time to write much this week as I have many things to…
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R.I.P. Verdacht auf PAS-SUIZID – Mord an Kindern – Heftiger Streit um Obsorge – Böheimkirchen | Familie & Familienrecht
PAS-SUIZID is German for someone that could not come to terms with not being able to see their children, and took their own life.
Staatsversagen – Wird der entsorgte Vater von den Behörden ignoriert? | Familie & Familienrecht
Several Stories about the situation in Austria, worth translating (Google button) is the real-life story of Andreas K, whose ex-wife killed her family of six.
via Staatsversagen – Wird der entsorgte Vater von den Behörden ignoriert? | Familie & Familienrecht
Urteil zum Familienrecht: BGH stärkt Umgangsrecht biologischer Väter | tagesschau.de
via Urteil zum Familienrecht: BGH stärkt Umgangsrecht biologischer Väter | tagesschau.de
For fathers whose children have been adopted, they now have additional rights confirmed by the German supreme Court.
Keeping in touch (cue sarcasm)
Today I got a mail from my ex-wife.
She is obliged to send me information about my two boys at regular intervals. This is the last stage of the German court drama I went through. It’s like child maintenance – you cannot avoid it.
She is required to send me information regarding their hobbies, how they are doing, school reports and a Ganzkörperbild (Full body photo). Now any normal person would actually write a bit. All I got was this:
Jonathan A
Schule: bekommt jetzt keinen Notenstandsbericht, dafür ein Zwischenzeugnis in 02/17, Lieblingsfach Religion
Freizeit: Klavier (aktuell: It´s time to say goodbye,Weihnachtslieder)Ministrant
Gesundheitszustand: keine Erkrankung
Raphael A
Schule: – Notenstandsbericht in der Anlage, bekommt dafür kein Zwischenzeugnis in 02/17, Lieblingsfach Sport
Freizeit: – Fussball (derzeitige Position Libero),Ministrant
Gesundheitszustand: keine Erkrankung
Which basically translates to, School – see report; The favourite subject of my eldest (14) is religion, his hobby is playing the piano and attending church, my youngest (12) enjoys football and attending church. Both have no illnesses.
This is nevertheless an improvement on the last report that was two lines long!
I am left with just sending a Christmas card to my only two living blood relatives and hoping they actually open the envelope.
Minister claims dads seek court orders to see kids in attempt to REDUCE child maintenance payments (F4J)
This is a marvellous post from F4J which shows how out of touch the current tory administration is. The reason we go to court Ms Nokes – is to see our children!
LOST DAD 