An excellent piece posted on REDDIT from a child (now adult) sufferer of PA. These reports are very few and far between, and clearly show that it is not just a problem for the abused non-custodial parent, but also in later life for the child itself.
Please read.
via I was a child affected by Parental Alienation Syndrome, AMA : MensRights
Excellent analysis of a recent decision to move a child that had been alienated from her father to the father.
To quote:
Certainly, parental alienation is a topic of significant public interest and importance for families and family justice professionals. It provokes strong opinions, including on whether and how the family court system (including Cafcass) ought to do better in identifying and managing parental alienation. International Parental Alienation Day on 25 April 2017 inspired a fair amount of commentary. See this Hansard debate secured by ex-Labour Party MP Simon Danczuk on 17 March for a flavour.
Old Bailey: Picture by Ben Sutherland
A Norwich man urges the family court to actually publish the transcripts of his 10-year odyssey in trying to see (more) of his child.
How on earth can justice be ‘served’ in this case? There is a huge need for transparency in the family courts to stop situations like this.
Another insightful post from Karen.
via The Unbearable Experience of The Alienated Child: Lessons From The Recovery Journey | Karen Woodall
A lie told often enough becomes the truth
Lenin, Marxist revolutionary (1870-1924)
A very interesting quote is it not? And what has it got to do with parental alienation?
Well – everything really.
Parental alienation works by giving the children the impression that the absent parent is ‘bad’, and to that end any tricks and/or lies are acceptable.
Words for the abused parents – Basically look after yourself.
Be present. Make love. Make tea. Avoid small talk. Embrace conversation. Buy a plant, water it. Make your bed. Make someone else’s bed. Have a smart mouth, and quick wit. Run. Make art. Create. Swim in the ocean. Swim in the rain. Take chances. Ask questions. Make mistakes. Learn. Know your worth. Love fiercely. Forgive quickly. Let go of what doesn’t make you happy. Grow.
– Paolo Coelho
I wanted to share this blog because it is written by someone who clearly knows how alienation and cults are interwoven. When I first began work as a psychotherapist one of my first clients was escaping a cult. I was interested in how EST, the cult which became The Forum worked and how Scientology managed to influence so many when it demanded such bizarre and dramatic behaviours from people. My interest in cults lead me eventually to working with parental alienation, itself a cult of the family mindset. I like this blog and think anyone who is interested in the psychology of alienation will too.
Source: A Trapped Mind
I read this week that a transfer of residence is the ‘nuclear option’ for treatment of parental alienation in the UK . The discussion arises from a public judgement in which the child concerned was sent to live with her father. Whilst there is a significant wrangling about the decision, based on the argument that the child had been too damaged already to be helped by a change of residence, (the judge finding that a particularly unattractive argument put forward by the mother), the words at the end of the Judgement are clear, the child will go to live with her father today.
That reality, which could just as easily read, the child will go to live with her mother today, given that fathers alienate mothers too, is one which causes too many people to become uneasy when they contemplate it. Which is why I guess, it is called by…
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I have just got the school report card from my youngest (13). German law requires that I get this along with a report on how the children are doing. My ex-wife has managed to distill this down to a few legally acceptable lines, as I have reported before!
What is interesting are the marks for English and French. Just a quick reminder: I live in Germany, my Ex-wife is German, and never had any interest in speaking English, only French. Until the final break with the children, I always spoke English to them.
Interesting article about the ‘Adult children of PAS’ updated recently.
It details the background of how the PA came into being, but also goes into some of the research carried out on the effects when the children become adults.
This is the saddest part:
At the same time the awareness of the alienation led to a greater degree of conflict in their relationship with the alienating parent.
This statement alone should lead to an overhaul of the family law system in several countries.
Children need both parents.
LOST DAD 