Interesting story from the German periodical Bunte. This is from a best-selling author and mother who details how she came to terms with shared parenting, why she wanted it, and also the reaction from other mothers.
There is still a long why to go before some mothers realise that they do not “own” their children unfortunately.
via Bestsellerautorin Lisa Frieda Cossham: Darum hat sie ihre Familie für die Liebe verlassen | BUNTE.de
Interesting story from WELT online.
The German supreme court has decided that there should not be a problem if the family courts decree a shared-parenting construct. The default up till now was the the every other weekend model.
But as always there is a major catch (or two)
- It must be in the child’s interest (Kindeswohl).
- The child must agree (and will be interviewed by the court)
- The parents cannot be in clinch with each other.
Both of these points can be torpedoed quickly enough by any abusing parent. In particular the last point. A couple of calls to social services alleging something and no chance.
So it sounds good, but only in very few cases per year when both parents agree.
And as a footnote – There still isn’t a reasonable decision how to “split” the child maintenance in cases of shared parenting. At the moment it is split 50:50 when the time involved is 50:50, but the absent parent still pays 100% child maintenance costs even if he looks after this children up to 49% of the time. So what is going to happen in some families when the custodial parent is going to lose several hundred Euros a month 😉
Good idea from the title, but effectively useless for most absent parents.
via Trennungskinder: Gerichte dürfen Eltern geteilte Betreuung vorschreiben – WELT
Mom’s magazine in Australia reporting positively on shared parenting.
via Shared Parenting After Divorce Gains New Attention | LifeZette
Excellent article from Matt O’Connor of F4J about ‘Hollywood Fathers’ that don’t push back when their ex makes unilateral decisions about access and upbringing of their children.
via Hollywood’s dads must break their omertà over the crisis of fatherlessness
Thoughts on weekend parenting versus shared parenting.
Via Familie und Familienrecht