Tag / Parental Alienation

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Devastated Fathers Speak Out About Parental Alienation

Reports of the effects of parental alienation in Australia. Just as sad as elsewhere.

Long Term Effects of Parental Alienation's avatarThe Long Term Effects of Parental Alienation

For any parent who is alienated from their child, every single day brings the painful realisation that they are missing a vital piece of their heart and soul. To me it is an unimaginable pain, and yet one I encounter on an almost daily basis as I support men who through no fault of their own, have had this inflicted upon them.

Birthdays, holidays, and festive occasions are all exceptionally difficult times for alienated parents and after Christmas Day there is perhaps none more damaging or hurtful for men than being alienated on Father’s Day.

Many Australian families will be celebrating the role of father’s in their children’s lives this week. Little children will be rushing into Dad’s room to give him the present they made at school, or purchased from the school fete. Older children will be giving Dad a hug, making him breakfast and letting him know he is…

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How to Lie

That’s a strange title for a post isn’t it?

Well after several years of having to deal with this I have a theory. It probably will be shot down by any practising psychologist within a three-kilometer radius but here goes…

The problem with downright lying is that it is hard to reproduce. I mean we have all seen those crime series on TV, where the same questions are asked time and time again, sometimes from several angles to try and catch the perpetrator out. Well, there is a reason for this. If you make it up completely – I mean Pinocchio level lying, then it never happened, so how do you actually remember it? It is difficult, and some can do it, even maintaining the framework of several lies.

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Self-Reflection

Meditation - Attribution: https://www.flickr.com/photos/wiertz/

Meditation – Attribution: https://www.flickr.com/photos/wiertz/

I was reading this report today on transparency about a father that brought a  case of Parental Alienation against his wife with respect to his two boys. The analysis of the case by the superbly independent Transparency Group showed that he was probably to blame for his actions, and ultimately the fact that he did not allow himself to reconsider the ramifications of his actions, or show any empathy for the circumstances which effectively caused the situation that now existed.

I read this report three times, and as always I drifted off in contemplation. All sorts of questions came to mind: Did I cause my own situation?  I am to blame? Am I possessed with blaming my ex-wife and her new husband for something that is ultimately down to me?

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Pain is the Point of Parental Alienation

A very emotive post from a father that has lost his children to PA. Describing how it is possible for one person to do this out of pure spite, and with the intention of destroying the other parent – causing pain.

It hurt to read this, and if you have no idea of what abused parents have gone through please read this – it is a real eye-opener.

 

 

 

via No More Secrets And Lies: Pain is the Point of Parental Alienation

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Ireland: ‘Dads aren’t recognised in our Constitution and the Citizen’s Assembly denied them a voice’

Article in todays Journal (Ireland) from Matt O’connor (father 4 Justice).

Insightful article from Matt, with details on why this fathers day is not a fathers day for quite a few fathers in Ireland.

Also interesting is the position of the catholic church.

The Church has consistently refused to support the rights of separated fathers to see their children and while Pope Francis has eulogised about the role of mothers, he has repeatedly made discriminatory comments about dads.

In his 2016 papal pronouncement Amoris Laetitia (The Joy of Love), Pope Francis went as far to describe fathers as “absent, missing…too controlling…they neglect families…fail to offer sure and solid guidance to their children.”

In fact, not a single priest has raised his voice to express concern for the plight of fatherless children and their dads.

via ‘Dads aren’t recognised in our Constitution and the Citizen’s Assembly denied them a voice’

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Choosing the right lawyer

This is potentially one of the most important decisions that you will make if custody becomes contested or access starts being violated.

I cannot stress this more strongly. 

I, unfortunately, went on a recommendation and landed a lawyer that just reacted. We cannot in the main expect lawyers to be pro-active, after all, they have other clients. But I now expect a lawyer to be pro-active in so far as they suggest different courses of action leading to a pre-defined and agreed goal.

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Baker: Parental Alienation Is Emotional Abuse of Children

Here is an article I found recently from an acknowledged expert in PA. We can all google “parental alienation” and get the same results. But this is really worth reading, for it spells out in a scientific journal the truth we all know, but hardly anyone believes:

Parental Alienation is Child Abuse.

via Parental Alienation Is Emotional Abuse of Children | Psychology Today

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Vatertag: Entfremdete Väter haben wenig Grund zu Feiern (Fathers Day: Alienated Fathers have little to celebrate)

A report from the leading Austrian Website for fathers rights. I did not know this before but PA is not acknowledged by the courts there!  Even though clinical experts accept that it does exist.

Austria has a long way to go!

As an aside there is also a confirmation of what I have been looking for a long time – The situation in France: wo gezielte Kontaktverhinderung ein Strafdelikt ist – Where targeted prevention of contact is a criminal offence.

via Vatertag: Entfremdete Väter haben wenig Grund zum Feiern | Familie & Familienrecht