Another insightful post from Karen.
Another insightful post from Karen.
I wanted to share this blog because it is written by someone who clearly knows how alienation and cults are interwoven. When I first began work as a psychotherapist one of my first clients was escaping a cult. I was interested in how EST, the cult which became The Forum worked and how Scientology managed to influence so many when it demanded such bizarre and dramatic behaviours from people. My interest in cults lead me eventually to working with parental alienation, itself a cult of the family mindset. I like this blog and think anyone who is interested in the psychology of alienation will too.
Source: A Trapped Mind
I read this week that a transfer of residence is the ‘nuclear option’ for treatment of parental alienation in the UK . The discussion arises from a public judgement in which the child concerned was sent to live with her father. Whilst there is a significant wrangling about the decision, based on the argument that the child had been too damaged already to be helped by a change of residence, (the judge finding that a particularly unattractive argument put forward by the mother), the words at the end of the Judgement are clear, the child will go to live with her father today.
That reality, which could just as easily read, the child will go to live with her mother today, given that fathers alienate mothers too, is one which causes too many people to become uneasy when they contemplate it. Which is why I guess, it is called by…
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Interesting article about the ‘Adult children of PAS’ updated recently.
It details the background of how the PA came into being, but also goes into some of the research carried out on the effects when the children become adults.
This is the saddest part:
At the same time the awareness of the alienation led to a greater degree of conflict in their relationship with the alienating parent.
This statement alone should lead to an overhaul of the family law system in several countries.
Children need both parents.
Another insightful article from Karen Woodall. This time from the viewpoint of the children taken into care.
I have been reading about children brought up in the care system and the way in which their whole lives were damaged by the way that the ‘system’ allowed them to be routinely abused. Those children are now adults and they are seeking to be compensated for the way in which the care system failed them. And why wouldn’t they seek that compensation, their lives have been blighted by the anxiety, pain and suffering that comes from being vulnerable in a system in which the adults responsible for the care being given were dehumanized themselves.
It got me thinking about the UK’s approach to dealing with children who are unable to cope with parental separation and the way in which the lack of knowledge about the needs of those children create a system in which their needs are often overlooked, misunderstood and processed along a conveyor belt of tick boxes…
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This week finds me focused on the experience of growing up in an alienating environment and the ways in which children are prepared for the kind of mind bending and brain washing behaviours which are seen in alienation. Keeping in mind that parental alienation is the result of three things – a) the alienating strategies of one parent b) the responses of the other and c) the resilience or vulnerability of the child, thinking about the ways in which resilience in children is undermined and how vulnerability is often created in the child almost before birth, it is easy to see that in some of these families, the very conditions that lead to children being alienated from one parent are simply part of their lives and normalised. In short, they don’t know any different and, it would seem, neither do their alienating parents. This is the generational procession of emotional…
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I work with social workers a lot. I also work with CAFCASS (GAL’s for our stateside readers) and I teach and train psychotherapists, psychologists and others in the psychological helping therapies about how to work with alienated children and their families. Most of the people I work with are aware of parental alienation and are aware that the behaviours they are seeing in the families they are working with are unusual and most know that there is something deeply wrong in the dynamic. What they don’t know is what to do about it, how to formulate their views and how to plan and deliver an intervention which assists the child. As part of our training to Local Authority teams and CAFCASS in the UK and to professionals developing their practice in Europe, we deliver a three day training which focuses upon the what, why and how of parental…
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