So what on earth is this?
This is a mechanism that I would like to recommend – It has saved me from doing something rash and stupid more times than I can remember.
Practically from the start my soon-to-be ex-wife was provoking me in e-mails and generally being antagonistic. I tried not to be the same but I am only human, and there is only so much goading that one can take without giving in kind. I am talking here about e-mail and telephone contact by the way. Not physical contact.
Positive signs are coming all of a sudden from Austria. This article forwarded from Famile & Familienrecht reports on an interview with a state judge (Bundesrichter) in Austria that is for shared-parenting. He even goes on to say that it should work, and should be supported even in cases where the parents (or one as we well know!) are in a conflict situation.
https://familiefamilienrecht.wordpress.com/2017/03/18/hoffnungen-der-vaeter-sind-berechtigt/
Wow – in Austria as well. Damages awarded to a father due to PAS. Follow the link here to Väter ohne Rechte
This appeared before I started this blog.
A well-known prime-time talk show featuring a well-researched piece on Parental Alienation. It is a BBC piece that can be viewed outside the UK.
Full text of the debate yesterday in parliament about PAS. Mainly positive remarks, but no real movement on the side of the department of justice.
Quotable remarks from the debate:
Danzuck: Despite those shocking statistics, the United Kingdom lags behind many other countries across the world in addressing the issue. Parental alienation is not recognised in the lower courts and, although the higher courts acknowledge that parental alienation occurs, many family rights campaigners feel the courts do nothing about it. Although there have been small steps in the right direction, progress in the UK has been far too slow.
Fernades: Does he agree with Mr Justice Munby, as he then was—he is now president of the family division of the High Court and has judged many family cases involving contact disputes—that the cause of these problems is delay in the court system, the failure of the courts to challenge groundless allegations against non-resident fathers and the failure of the courts to get to grips with defiance of contact orders and child arrangement orders and to properly enforce against breach? Does he agree that that is the core of some of the problems? (my emphasis)
Very interesting story here about the first ever debate in the British parliament about Parental Alienation. Proposed by the independent (form. Labour) MP Simon Danczuk. I hope he will continue to pursue this cause as well as he did with the child abuse/Cyril Smith scandal.
I will keep you posted as to the outcome.
via Parents who use children as a weapon in break-up ‘should be punished in court’ | BreakingNews.ie
Even if you or your soon-to-be ex-partner do not move away then keeping in touch with the children is of paramount importance.
Bonding with the children is a continuing process that requires continual contact. Finding out how they are doing, what they are doing etc. – all in a way that is natural and unforced.
Excellent post from Karen here on the current increasing acceptance of PAS. But also with a valid codicil that the battle has only just begun. Really worth reading.
https://karenwoodall.wordpress.com/2017/03/03/the-battle-for-britains-alienated-children/
Another article on the German Supreme Courts ruling that shared-parenting can be applied in Germany, if 1) it is in the childs interests and 2) the parents are not already battling it out in court. Then it can be ‘forcefully’ applied.
A couple of interesting things come out of this article:
Finally an open letter from “mutterlobby.de” addressed to the family minister is referenced. This letter talks about fathers that simply want to see their children in the most negative way. Isn’t is time to stop the gender war and find a common workable way for both sexes to contribute to the development of their own children?
via Streit um Scheidungskinder: Wütende Väter schöpfen neue Hoffnung – WELT
Interesting story from the German periodical Bunte. This is from a best-selling author and mother who details how she came to terms with shared parenting, why she wanted it, and also the reaction from other mothers.
There is still a long why to go before some mothers realise that they do not “own” their children unfortunately.
via Bestsellerautorin Lisa Frieda Cossham: Darum hat sie ihre Familie für die Liebe verlassen | BUNTE.de
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