As the name of this blog suggests I am in a battle, however I do not revel in the fight. I am often defeated, but seek no pity for each loss. I cling on to those around me andtrust in their love and support. All I wish is to be a father to my three beautiful children. That is what I am fighting for day in and day out.

As any parent fighting parental alienation knows,the number of defeats completely outweigh the victories. Requests and pleas for helpare regularly turned down by social services, judges, friendsetc. The list goes on of the people, servicesand institutions that will turn their back on you when you need them the most. An alienated parent’s love for their children is the ultimate motivation to carry on in the face of such adversity.

However despite enduring numerous defeats over the last ten and a half…

My last post caused a flurry of indignation from some quarters because I was writing from the perspective of the alienated child and not from the perspective of the alienated parent.  I make no apologies however, my work has always been about children first and parents second, that is the way of the world. Children’s needs should be met by their parents not the other way around, hence my focus. Whilst I value rejected parents and recognise their value in their child’s life, I am not a parental advocate I am a child advocate. The role of the rejected parent in an alienated child’s life is, for me, as rescuer and repairer of the broken environment around the child. A ballast in a horrendous psychological storm.  Children are and always will be my primary concern, they are the future of the world and healing their pain is about ending the…

Datum: 2.6.2017, Zeit: 10:00 – 17:00 Uhr
Ort: 1100 Wien Columbusplatz

In my continuing battle to fight parental alienation and promote social change I have started writing an evidence based article. This currently has the working title of ‘Are UK authorities effectively safeguarding children in their approach to the issue that is parental alienation.’

A recent post of mine (Cafcass Asked Me If I Had Any Ideas. Here Is My 16 Page Response!) will form part of a section on Cafcass. Once I have completed the article in its entirety I aim to use it in various ways to highlight the numerous service gaps that are allowing this form of abuse to go unchallenged.

I am looking for parents that are affected by parental alienation that are prepared to share their stories with me. The selected stories will be included within my article as vignettes. Please be assured that any stories included in the article will be fully anonymised. All that I ask…

I have worked in many cases where parental alienation is featured and some where it is alleged but on investigation it is not present. In these cases, in which children actually are withdrawn from a parent, there are distinct features which allow us to determine that it is not parental alienation.  Unfortunately, in the investigation, it becomes apparent that the allegation of parental alienation is being used to either further control behaviours in the parent making it, or that the parent has some problems which are contributing to the child’s withdrawal. The common denominator in all of these cases are the behaviour of the parent from whom the child has withdrawn, which is often fixed and rigid in presentation and which escalates in determination that the other parent is to blame when one attempts to intervene.

Learning how to tell the real case of parental alienation from the alleged one…

I am incredibly proud to be involved with the organisation I Was Erased. This U.S. based group is the brainchild of David Shubert, who is a parent continuing to fight what is now a nine and a half year battle to be reunited with his children.

The organisation’s aim is to provide and share support and resources for alienated and left behind parents. Their website can be found at www.iwaserased.com

David regularly writes what he refers to as ‘reflections’ and posts these online. The following is David’s latest reflection, entitled ‘The Living Dead’. This particular piece brought home to me what it is to be an alienated parent.

David has kindly given me permission to post his reflection on here:

The Living Dead

The very breath we breathe is sucked out of us.  We walk around like zombies.  The smile we once had is no longer visible and peace is forever gone.  This…

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. . . starke Verletzung der europäischen Werte, wenn einem Elternteil der Zugang zum Kind verwehrt wird!
Das Wohl des Kindes kann nicht gewährt sein, wenn der Zugang zu einem Elternteil versperrt ist!

Tags: Kindeswohl,Jugendamt,Europaparlament,Menschenrechtsverletzung,Umgangsrecht,Familienrecht,Entfremdung,PAS,Trennung,Eltern,Wohl des Kindes